Happy New Year!
The new year is a great time to set new goals and achieve new levels of health and wellness. The big joke this time of year is how many people make a resolution that only lasts about a week. Well, this is the year you can change all that! Its true, habits and patterns are difficult to break by their very nature. But its NOT because you are bad, wrong, or broken! It’s only because we rely on our patterns and habits to get us through busy days. The more complicated our lives become the more we must depend on our “auto pilot” mechanisms.
As a hypnotherapist with certifications in 4 different schools of hypnosis and therapy, I have realized that hypnosis is much much more than “tricks” to control the subconscious. Hypnotherapy is applied psychology. It is a method for understanding how the mind learns and applying the quickest, most lasting methods for learning new patterns and habits. As a matter of fact there is no “controlling” the subconscious or unconscious mind, there are only best methods for communicating our needs and desires to what is essentially a second mind.
Your subconscious IS YOU! As they say, two heads are always better than one. This is only too true! The other-than-conscious parts of your mind genuinely want YOUR best happiness and success. In fact, they are working for you every day making your life easier. One of the ways they make your life easier is to memorize your patterns and routines and run them for you like an autopilot so you don’t have to think so hard about the ordinary tasks of life.
One great example of your subconscious working for you is driving. When we first learned to drive it was nearly overwhelming. We had to remember which foot goes where, how to work the shift and when, keep our hands at 6 and 9, our eyes on the road and simultaneously on the rear and side view mirrors, all while scanning ahead, reading signs, monitoring our speed, and checking for dangers all at once. No wonder we felt like shouting, “Shut up, I’m driving!” whenever anyone tried to talk to us. Now, though, we get in the car and do all that and we feel…bored! We turn on the radio, drink a cup of Joe, or (God forbid!) talk on the cell phone just to keep from falling asleep.
How can we do ALL of that? Well, we can’t! It is our subconscious mind that is driving the car for us. Most people can recall a time when we got in the car at the end of a long day’s work and then found ourselves pulling into the driveway at home without any awareness of how we got there. I’ve even heard stories of people who found themselves pulling up to the house they USED to live in after an autopilot drive like that. Your subconscious has learned not only how to drive but also the route home!
That is a great example of how your subconscious mind works hard so you don’t have to. It never gets easier to do the 10 tasks at once that driving a vehicle requires of us. It only SEEMS easier because our best buddy, the subconscious, takes over the job for us as much as possible. Whenever something new or different demands our conscious engagement the whole task is tossed back to the conscious mind. So if a car suddenly pulls out in front of us, our conscious mind must engage. Suddenly, we drop the cell phone, throw that coffee in the air and yell, “SHUT UP! IM DRIVING!” all over again. See? Its not easier, its just that our old reliable subconscious is hard at work so we can better contemplate the joys of life.
Now that you can appreciate what your subconscious does for you, maybe you’re beginning to like the idea of forming a REAL partnership with your “other self”? Maybe you can also better appreciate how many tasks your subconscious takes over for you (You know you’re still asleep in the shower each morning. Who do you THINK does the scrubbing and shaving for you?) and how easy it is to misunderstand WHICH habits you have decided to drop and WHICH you want to reinforce? Those old “bad” habits that tend to repeat themselves are just like driving up to the house you moved out of months ago. You’re subconscious is not sabotaging you, it has simply learned its job too well. Now, that’s where hypnosis comes in.
Hypnosis is the easiest way to communicate clearly to the subconscious exactly what patterns should be changed and which should be repeated. Otherwise, it gets confused. Of course, the subconscious in all of us speaks a different language than the conscious mind and everyone’s subconscious language is unique. A qualified hypnotherapist will need to be a good interpreter to custom translate your goals into the language your subconscious understands well. A few sessions for fine tuning, and those old nasty habits are gone for good.
And its easy! And its fun! And all you really have to do is relax and let your subconscious mind do what it does best! You can simply be the beneficiary of your ‘partner’ (subconscious You)’s hard work and tenacity! There’s no reason you cannot make your resolutions REAL lasting changes that make life better and happier. And if you’re having trouble thinking of new patterns to replace the old ones – your subconscious is great at THAT job too! That’s what its there for. Isn’t it time you took a load off and let someone else do the hard work for you? Wouldn’t it be great if you had a partner to help you through all the tough parts of life? And wouldn’t it be lovely if that partner was YOU and was as easily accessible as the air that you breathe? Hypnotherapy makes all that real, tangible, and fun.