Why the New Epidemics Require a New Immunity

The old paradigm for the immune system describes a war in which our immune systems build weaponry, fight, and destroy any incoming life forms. But that old analogy isn’t working in the face of so many new epidemics, like Ebola, SARS, and AIDS, to name just a few. In recent years many new forms of disease have emerged that seem to be mutating and becoming more virulent so rapidly that our old style immune systems cannot keep pace.

To understand why, consider what happens when a country is invaded by an enemy and goes to war on their own land. The outcome is rarely positive. Even if the invaded country can repel the invaders, the infrastructure, the economy, and the people of the country are left devastated & drained of resources. If a new enemy should suddenly invade at that time, the country will, no doubt, succumb to the revenges of war and go down.

Imagine this country is your body and the invading enemies are various forms of disease. If you should sustain an attack of flu this winter, you will have precious few resources left to defend yourself against Ebola. The future looks bleak.

Now consider, if you will, a different sort of paradigm. Suppose your immune system were the recruiters for a championship team. Suppose every newcomer was a potential new recruit. Instead of trying to kill these newcomers on sight, what if your body were meeting them, making introductions and then giving them a little job to do for the good of the team?

Those newcomers who learned the job well became new team members. Outfitted with the team shirt and cap, they are then asked to improve on the job they had just learned to do. Now the newcomers are teaching us how to run our bodies more efficiently and effectively. They are now a valued member of the team and have a vested interest in the well being of the whole. Rather than expending our limited resources waging war, we are increasing our resources and power with each new recruit who joins the team.

Wouldn’t that system work much better? Of course it would, you say, but that’s not the way the immune system functions. Well, that’s where you’re wrong. In the first place the “Us & Them” war mentality is just an old mental concept. We interpreted the function of our immune system in those terms because that was all our minds could understand at the time. Now we can begin to grasp a different paradigm.

Then there’s the second place. In the second place, everything we believe and conceive we are telling our bodies daily in our “self talk”. (see blog: Positive Self Talk) By indoctrinating our bodies into our belief system we convince them to operate the way we think they should. If we can begin to embrace a new paradigm, we can quite literally build a new immune system, an immune system that can survive epidemic after epidemic and actually come out stronger than before.

We are no longer faced with the impossible task of hiding from all exposure to microbes.  Rather than fearing exposure to new diseases we should be strengthening our overall constitution and then seeking out new microbe exposure.  A strong team starts with a strong liver, for processing toxins, strong kidneys for cleaning the blood, and a strong mental attitude of “Win-Win”.  There is no room for an outdated “Us & Them” philosophy.  There are no walls big enough or strong enough to keep “Them” out.  But with a process that integrates all newcomers into Team Us, there is a way to live in peace, both within our bodies and in the greater world at large.

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How to Build a New Winning Immunity

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Dogs vs. Cats

Who's smarter, dogs or cats?

Who’s smarter, dogs or cats?

 

There is a popular notion that there are Cat People and there are Dog People.  Some folks say dogs are the more intelligent species because they are so easy to train.  Some say cat’s are the more intelligent species because they are more independent and less needy.  Well, I have met and worked with quite a few cats and dogs in my time and I have to say they are BOTH very intelligent animals.  And while I cannot definitively say that cats or dogs are more intelligent than humans, it would be fair to say that some cats and dogs I’ve met are indeed smarter than some humans I’ve met.

Other than that observation, it all comes down to culture.  Dogs literally evolved side by side with our own species and much evidence points to the possibility that dogs evolved as an indirect result of human settlements.  Clearly dogs and wolves share a common ancestor.  There is evidence to support the idea that modern dogs first evolved as a species from those tamer wolves that discovered trash pits around human settlements were a better source of food than the scraps they were afforded in the pack.  Now, the very gene that makes the more alpha wolves aggressive and thus ensures them the ability to kill prey also ensures them a good feed.  As I mentioned in other blogs, the rule of the pack is, “He who makes the kill eats his fill.”  Dogs (and cats) still observe a system of hierarchy where feeding is concerned and the lowest ranking dogs would have had to wait till the others ate before they were even given the chance to chew on the bones.  So a few of these hungrier, less aggressive wolves found that waiting near human settlements was a more rewarding way to get some scraps.

These less aggressive wolves must have begun to breed with others who were on the trash heaps and also less aggressive.  Genetics experiments have shown that when you breed for less aggressive behavior in canines, you  also “turn on” genes that produce the familiar traits of dogs that wolves do not have: barking, floppy ears, curly tails, spots, stripes, and a vast array of coat colors.  Thus the modern dog species emerged largely because humans began living in one place and producing trash heaps.  Anthropologists have actually found remains of dogs among human settlements as far back as humans stopped being nomadic and began to settle.

puppy kitten

Cat history is much more mysterious.  Many theories point to the ancient Egyptians as the first to domesticate cats.  There are several species of larger wild cats, so unlike dogs there is not so clear a path of evolution.  I’ve even heard some fringe speculation that cats came to this planet with extraterrestrials.  (And, given my experience talking to the two cats in my own house, that actually makes the most sense to me.)  Still, however you cut it, dog thinking and culture is simply going to fit in better with human thinking and culture because we have evolved side by side.  Cats, it seems, adopted us somewhere along the way and have since come and gone more-or-less as they please.  In fact there is a wild species of cat in Scotland that is about the size and shape of our domestic cat.  Most likely it has evolved back to the wild.

So my point is dogs evolved alongside us and part of their survival depended on human survival.  It only stands to reason that dogs are disposed to doing the bidding of humans and generally more eager to please.  Its literally in their genes.  Cat’s apparent inability to be trained is not because they don’t understand our commands, but simply because they don’t care.

My old roommate from college actually trained her cat to fetch cotton balls and Q-tips.  When I enthusiastically proposed to my cat men that we learn to do that, the response was cool.  “You mean fetch like a dog? pffft!”  “But it would be a new game we could play together!”  “Dogs are silly!”

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I had an opportunity last week to talk with a canine patient of mine.  His human has two dogs and an array of cats (4? 6? Cats always seem more numerous in groups.) She has been trying to get her pets to integrate and live peacefully in the same space.  So I asked this dog, Bear if he thought he might be able to get along with the cats. “Nope!” was his reply.  “No, I mean the cat’s in your house, not my cats.”  Bear, “Oh, ok, Nope!”  I asked him why and he said cat’s were mean. “They will intentionally hurt your feelings!”  I have to vouch for the fact that this is true.  The cats in my house spend more time talking crap and teasing one another than most any other activity.  I would definitely say that more damage is done by their petty teasing than by any claws or teeth.

So I may have to agree with those who favor dogs for their loyalty, their desire to please, and their kind and friendly dispositions.  Still, I am purely blown away by the intelligence of my cat, Josh.  Josh was rescued and lived at a vet practice after more than a year of difficult conditions and rough experiences on the street.  While at the vet, he befriended a wise cat who taught him the ways of humans.  Josh is a fast learner!  Motivated by his desire to be adopted and have a true home, Josh learned to treat humans as alphas, even if they don’t earn the title.  He learned to roll over charmingly for belly rubs, to tolerate hugs, and to keep his claws retracted around the soft hairless humans.  He is also quick to distract humans by playing adorably with his tail rather than pouncing or plopping down on the keyboard.  He even sleeps respectfully at the foot of the bed.  Josh didn’t learn these behaviors on the street and he didn’t learn them as a kitten, or he might not have been left behind by his first family.  Josh learned these behaviors as an adult, taught by another cat and listening to what humans like best in pets.

To me, the most impressive testament to his intelligence is Josh’s sarcasm.  When Josh first arrived in our home he had a sarcastic retort to most every human question he was asked.  When I walked into the living room one morning and said, “Hi Josh!  Where’s Prince?” He replied, “He’s dead.  I ate him.”  When I would suggest that he and Prince could be friends and share instead of fighting for dominance he replied, “Oh, ok THAT”S a great idea! Maybe we can wear dresses and have a little tea party too.”  Some of Josh’s sarcasm actually went right over my head.  I could tell I was being mocked, but I couldn’t understand why.  My favorite was when I was looking for mac & cheese in the soup isle and instead found coffee and tea, “Who puts coffee next to the soup?!” I exclaimed.  Without missing a beat Josh shot, “Oh my god!  Do you mean to tell me there is something illogical in the perfectly reasonable, logical human world??!”

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Josh explained that his sarcasm was a habit he developed from years of humans talking to him and asking him questions but never once listening for his answer.  Feeling totally ignored and discounted, Josh developed the habit of sarcastic retorts.  But sarcasm is a very intelligent form of humor.  It requires understanding the situation so well that you can say the complete opposite of what you mean.  In this case, Josh has a thorough grip on both the human and cat cultural norms.  He has taught me quite a lot about animals and also about my own species.

So when it comes to who is smarter, I fall squarely on the side of both dogs and cats.  They are highly intelligent, with intricate rules of behavior and engagement.  They can hear what we are saying and thinking, can learn to understand our spoken language, and with the right motivation they can both be taught useful behaviors and fun tricks.  In short, both dogs and cats are intelligent enough to deserve listening and kindness.  They are smart enough that if one is behaving badly we should assume there is a valid reason for it.

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Max: A rescued hound dog

Sleepy Max

Sleepy Max

When I first met Max it was at my office in Hilton Village.  A human client of mine had taken Max in as a foster dog.  She was working to train him in some basic obedience behaviors so he would be more adoptable.  The main problem Kelli and her husband were having with Max was that he wasn’t housebroken and kept having “accidents” in the house.  He was also a little standoffish with their other 3 dogs.

Before I could begin to treat Max, we had to get him to go up the stairs to my office.  He was very reluctant to climb the stairs with me walking behind him. When I silently asked him why what I got was a flash vision of a man in heavy boots coming down a narrow stairwell behind Max and kicking him hard.  I went up the stairs first and Max was happy to follow.

In the office I began working with Max by asking a bit about his background.  Kelli filled in what she could saying they thought he had been a hunting dog set loose to fend for himself.  So I asked Max himself, “Were you a hunting dog?”  Max turned away and replied abruptly, “I wasn’t a dog, I was a THING.”  Max had lived his life in slavery, housed in a small wire kennel outdoors in the mud.  His front teeth were worn away from chewing the bars of his cage.  With no shelter from the elements, no bed, and no toileting breaks, Max had been forced to override the basic instinct embedded in the brain stem of all dogs: A dog does not foul where he sleeps.  But Max had had no choice but to poop and pee in the same rectangular space where he slept each night.

Max had a degree of PTSD like I had never before encountered.  When a person (human or dog) endures a sizable emotional blow, I find that a piece of the soul actually breaks off.  If the person has to go back into the same situation that caused the shattering of his soul, that original broken piece must be sequestered, walled off from the rest of the spirit to make the re-entry emotionally possible.  My job in such cases is to find the walled off pieces, listen to their pain, nurture, rehabilitate and rejoin them to the rest of the spirit.  It is by no means an easy job, but I have done it successfully in many human patients.

I explained to Max that Kelli was trying to teach him some skills so that he could be adopted into a home as a pet.  I tried to get him to focus on the future by asking what sort of home he thought would be best for him.  “I don’t know,” said Max, “Maybe a childless couple where I’m the only dog.”  But Max was quick to add, “If they can’t find a home like that for me please tell her to put me down.” (I hear this a lot from dogs and cats, I’m sorry to say.  So much so that I really think we need to re-evaluate our efforts to stop euthanization.  I just think we need to ask ourselves why we are so afraid of death, and who it is we are actually trying to protect?)  Max was worried about his ability to get along with other dogs.  He had bonded with some other hunting dogs where he was kept but it had been a mistake.  The dogs did not have the liberty to maintain friendships.

Max & his new friend, Charlie

Max & his new friend, Charlie

To change the focus, I asked about his Mom.  Again the abrupt pulling away, “I don’t want to talk about my Mother.  She was a thing too!”  Unable to loosen the pieces of the past, I tried again to focus on the future.  But Max finally explained that he could not imagine a future.  That required hope and hope was too painful.  He had learned to diminish disappointment by avoiding hope.  I finally managed to explain to him that Kelli was actually thinking of keeping him as her own dog.  “Really?” He could hardly grasp the concept.  “Yes, but we need you to try to bond with the other dogs in the house a bit and try to learn the toilet training and other behaviors.”  He agreed he would try.  He seemed grateful just to be listened to and understood a bit.  He seemed absolutely awed by the thought that Kelli and her family might want to adopt him.

Some weeks later I made a house call to help all four dogs adapt.  Unable to resist, Kelli had adopted Max with his heart of gold.  Max had been observed on several occasions going over to touch and lie beside other dogs in suffering or illness.  Kelli is working on training him as a therapy dog.  I tested out Max’s abilities and found that he could easily diagnose and even treat pain and illness.  Lady, the lead dog of the house who says she is nearing the end of her life, pointed out to me that Max was the dog best suited to take over the responsibility of lead dog when she goes.  But he still needed help overcoming all the PTSD.

Charlie, Lady & Kobe - Max's new family.

Charlie, Lady & Kobe – Max’s new family.

 

This time Max was more forth-coming about the past.  I opened some of the walled off pieces and removed the painful memories from his heart and mind so that I could remember them myself and he didn’t have to “tell” the stories.  Max was born into a pack of dogs who were kept by rough men, bearded alcoholic hunters.  They tried to train the dogs to be vicious.  The stories were horrible and ugly.  Max, with his pure heart asked me again and again, “Why would humans DO that?”  I truly believed Max was looking for a way to understand and even forgive the brutality he had been subjected to.  I had no answers for him.  Till finally I said quietly, “Max, they were broken people.  That is the behavior of broken humans.”  He turned his head to look into my eyes, “You see that too, don’t you?  That’s what they were trying to do to those dogs, break them.”

Well, Max could not be broken.  I explained to him that the very things that had made him a target of accelerating abuse were the same things that make him a Good Dog, the best kind of dog for a family.  Because he could not be made to savage prey or to fight the other dogs, those dogs, including his own mother, had been made to attack him.  Finally, he had been turned loose and driven away, simply because he remained unbreakable in heart and character.

Max & Charlie learn to bond.

Max & Charlie learn to bond.

Lady and I mended the part of Max’s brain stem that had been severed to allow him to foul his sleeping area.  Since then I hear he has been very successful with the toilet training.  There may still be some snags along the way, but that is to be expected.  He’s certainly made big changes in a very short period of time.  I’m confident Max will be an asset to his new family and to whomever is lucky enough to meet him as a therapy dog.  When I was leaving the home, Max said, “This is a good home for dogs.”

“Yes,” I said, “Its your home now, Max, forever.”

“Really? how long is that?”

“As long as you want to stay, Max.”

“But I don’t want to leave here!”

“Max, forever is until you die.”

“Oh, and I get to decide when that is?”

“Yes, Max, you get to decide when.”

Later that night from a distance Max sent me two things: the image of his Mom, and her scent.

Max's Mom was all red, like this coonhound.

Max’s Mom was all red, like this coonhound.

Learn more about abandoned hunting dogs here:   http://thecrassmenagerie.wordpress.com/2013/07/18/the-throwaway-hound-dog/

And here:  http://m.timesdispatch.com/sports/misfortune-dogs-canine-castoffs/article_10f46bf1-f410-5612-8981-622f0619dcc8.html?mode=jqm

Weird Cat Behavior Explained

While I”m learning more about the kitty protocol and hierarchy system (which is VERY complex and not a little bit sexual) let me tell you useful tidbits I’ve learned about cat behavior. Some of these are real eye-openers,  Some are just weird.

1)Why do cats beg for belly rubs & then attack you on the 3rd rub?

Josh: because it tickles!! Apparently that fuzzy soft belly is quite sensitive and like humans a serious tickle fest makes them want to strike out.  Stick to the area you are offered. (I got so into it that I went up under his kitty armpits & he got really mad & said, “Any other cat would have scratched you!!”) Also, you might want to avoid the cutest part down near the back feet because it may be construed as flirtatious.

The sweet trap

The sweet trap

 

2)Why do cats maul your house plants or fresh flowers?

Josh: Cats can hear plants “speak” too and when we bite them they make little noises (calling out for help, I expect!) that makes for a fun interactive game.  I’m not making this up, I swear!

cats-vs-plants

cats-vs-plants

 

3)Why do two cats meet and stare each other down and then one starts hissing for no reason?

Well, it turns out that the one who hisses is NOT the aggressor.  A hissing cat (likewise a growling dog) is on the defence against an aggressor.  In the case of  cats, they are not sitting silently when they meet, they are talking crap.  First they size up one another’s smell signals.  Then they negotiate territory.  My teenaged male, Prince, for example, was eager to meet Josh and have a new friend and mentor.  But as soon as Josh was close enough to smell and in our home, Prince met him (at the door) with “mine, mine, mine”.  This is MY house, these are MY toys, She’s MINE.  That’s MINE.  And so the games began.  Prince is the one who hisses in our house because Josh puts the smack-down on him and demands the leaders share of things.  And, apparently, I spoiled Prince by letting a wild arrogant teenaged boy have too much freedom and not enough discipline in this house before Josh arrived (*sigh*).

Cat confrontation

 

4)Why do cat’s love laser tag?

Those cute little laser pointers that drive cats wild?  Well, I noticed that my smarty-pants cats had figured out rather quickly that I was holding and controlling the pointer.  I thought they would lose interest in the game, but they didn’t.  It only took a little edge off their frantic efforts to capture the red dot.  So why the fascination?  Josh offered to show me what the laser dot looks like through his eyes and it is simply AMAZING! Its not just a red dot, its a rainbow of prismatic colors going out in all directions.  Finding the actual point of the dot is a great game in itself but it is always an eye catcher because its like a twirling disco ball for cats!

 

5) What do cat’s see at night?

After the laser tag experience I had to see what cats see in the dark.  Plus, Josh was constantly making fun of me for turning on the lights.  I explained to Josh that putting someone in a dark room alone was rude to the point of cruel in human terms.  Josh just laughs.  “We see better in the dark.” he explains.  So finally I had a look.  It was confusing at first because I honestly expected to see the room lit us as in daylight, but no.  It took awhile to register what I was seeing.  These cats see a world at night that boggles the senses!!  Its NOT visual light!  They see smells, emotions, hormones.  My god, I think they may see souls!  I’m going to have to take another look, because, honestly, that first view was much too much.  This explains why my Josh is always sneering at the human fascination with the visual world.

We can sit and watch movies or games on a screen that to cats is foolishly absurd because its so obviously not “real”. One evening while petting Josh I was musing about the color of his eyes (a lovely pale green) and thinking of Prince’s eyes (a bright yellow) and wondering to myself what they would look like with their eye color switched.  Wouldn’t Prince be beautiful with his soft gray fur and Josh’s pale aqua eyes?  Josh sat up in disgust, “What does THAT matter?!  WHY do you even care??!”  He continually expresses a disgust and confusion about human’s over-fascination with the visual.  I’ve tried to explain in several different ways, to no avail.  Now I realize my mistake.  We humans see almost NOTHING of this world we live in.  We focus all our concerns on the visual presentation and little or noting on what is true and real.   Well, now we both know why.  Our world is limited to the superficial.  I think Josh pities us now.

 

get a cat door

get a cat door

 

6) Why do cat’s beg to go outside and then change their mind moments later and demand to come in? Or let you stand there with the door open while they “decide” which way they prefer to go?

These cats are maintaining ownership of you. To remind you that they have the upper hand they need to make you do their bidding every day.  They run your through your paces by asking for little things.  Indoor-outdoor cats know that asking to go outside will get action from you, so they use that.  They don’t really have anything they need to do, they just want to make you follow their commands. Which leads me to the following list:

7)  Why do cats wake you up at night?  Turn up their noses at food?  Shred all the furniture?  Sit on your counters?  Stomp on your sleeping body?  Attack your feet?  Scratch you without warning?

All of these behaviors are either the result of “ownership”,  an attempt to establish “ownership”, or a process of leveling up their ownership of you into a full-on dictatorship.  Do NOT be OWNED by a cat!  See my last blog ( https://clearmirrorhealing.wordpress.com/2014/09/15/how-to-train-your-cat/  ) for basics and my next blog for more intimate details.

 

 

 

How to Train Your Cat

 

If you’ve ever had a cat you have surely concluded that cat’s can’t be trained.  You may have had the vague uneasy feeling that your cat was training you.  You’re no doubt familiar with some of the super-annoying habits that seem to come with cat ownership: walking, shedding and sleeping on kitchen counters, scratching everything in sight, the loud calls at doors, the mauling of house plants, tearing of carpets, stomping on your chest at 3:00am to breath whiskery breath into your face and meow loudly for food. Like me, you may have assumed those behaviors were just things cats do.

Wrong! Meet my new cat Josh. Josh is a 3yr old rescue cat who’s spent years living in the wild after being abandoned by a “loving” family because his arrogant teen male behaviors just became too much for them. Josh has been through a lot of emotional and physical distress, has contracted FIV, the cat equivalent of HIV+. Josh is wise for his years, street wise, human wise, charming and cute, and far far more intelligent than I ever expected from a kitty.

Josh

Josh

Josh came into our home to help me train our male teenage cat who was bored, lonely and out of control with the annoying cat behaviors. Since arriving, Josh has taught me at least as much as he has taught Prince. The big picture is, cats can indeed be trained at any age. You are just doing it wrong. Allow me to share with you Cat Culture Protocol 101.

If you are a good dog trainer, you are no doubt familiar with the richly detailed hierarchy of dog social systems. Cats, it turns out, have an even more complex system. The good news is you don’t have to be a mean evil dictator bent on domination to get control of the kitties in your house & enjoy some peace and friendliness with your cat companions. But you do have to learn the rules of cat culture and then play it like a game. Play by their rules until you gain the authority to set your own rules.

Now, my rules are things like, “Equality, love, and fun for all” At first my friend Josh sneered at my silly-naive-girly-fluf rules. My idea of rainbows and lollypops, peace, love and gumdrops has worked for me and my daughters for years. With only a few adjustments and an open mind I am learning to make it work for the cat boys too. So here are the basics that I’ve learned in terms you can understand and use.

Rule One: Your cat will OWN you if you let him!

The two males Josh (3yrs) and Prince (1yr) sat discussing terms in my living room the first day when suddenly Josh wheeled around and looked at me and said with alarm & a hint of shame in his voice, “Prince says he owns you, is that true?!” “Of course not,” I replied, “No one can own people, only love them, neither humans nor pets.” My response was discussed, sneered at and dismissed. Then Josh began (sometimes patiently, sometimes rather cruelly) to teach me about ownership in the cat world. Turns out I had inadvertently signaled to Prince that he “OWNED” me & that was why his behavior became unmanageable.

Kitty Man Josh

Kitty Man Josh

Cats base ownership on a system of smells and behaviors. But while in dog protocol butt-sniffing is a polite form of greeting, cat protocol dictates that we only allow others to sniff our stuff if they have met our strict standards of trust and loyalty. So, do NOT allow your cat to sniff your nether regions until and unless they are behaving per YOUR standards. No problem there, right? Humans don’t do that crazy stuff, right?

WRONG! Your cat’s ability to smell is much much more sensitive than yours! So you need to avoid many seemingly benign activities if you want to avoid being “Owned” Here’s a short list:

  • Avoid being naked in front of your cat.
  • Avoid letting your cat watch you in the bath or shower or on the toilet.
  • Do NOT let your cat sniff the toilet or drink from the bowel after you use it (if you haven’t seen them try you are probably not watching).
  • Menstruating females should keep any used products out of reach, or just keep the bathroom door shut tight.
  • Avoid letting your cat sleep in bed with you – especially if you sleep nude or in underclothes.
  • Do not sit on the floor with your cat with your rear or privates pointed in his direction.
  • Do NOT let your cat watch you make love.
  • Do not even break wind when your cat is behind you.

I hate to mention – but these Rules of Smells are even more important for women than for men. From what I’ve gleaned, that is because we smell naturally fabulous! I’ll share more when I understand more myself.

Don't let kitty watch.

Don’t let kitty watch.

If you’re like me, that list seems crazy, too restrictive and just plain WRONG! I know, right? Sorry, friend, it wasn’t me who made the rules. Doesn’t everyone say cats are crazy? The good news is you don’t have to turn your life upside-down to please your cat. You just have to know what rules s/he is playing by, and make a SHOW of honoring those rules to stay in charge and keep from becoming property. Silly me, I always took my cat’s fascination with my bathroom habits to be innocent curiosity, but no. Adult cat’s are simply not innocent – they are WILD THANGS! Don’t make my mistake yourself. Well informed is well prepared.

Rule Two: Real Leaders Eat First

The other set of protocol for cats has to do with food. This set is probably familiar to any good dog trainers. In a dog pack the dog(s) who make the kill get their fill. The same is true with cats, it seems. So do not feed your feline before you feed yourself. Let them see you eat a meal and THEN serve them. It is a nice reward to give your cat the last bite of your meal. This is how you reward him for his patience during your meal. DO NOT let your cat so much as sniff your food before you eat it or s/he will OWN you and you will never again be able to eat or sleep in peace. I know a friend who trains excellent service dogs – the best behaved dogs you will ever meet. She actually makes a habit of pretending to take a bite of her dog’s dinner before setting the bowl down for Fido. This would be good cat protocol too. Do NOT leave a dish of food available for your fluffy friend throughout the day no matter how convenient it seems. It will become very inconvenient when Fluffy begins to demand only the choicest vittles, howls for you to fill his bowl YET fuller, or climbs onto the table to steal your meal.

Not even once!

Not even once!

 

You don’t have to follow these rules, of course. You only have to realize that your cat thinks these are THE rules that govern family life. Make a show of following the rules, especially at first. Think of them as a fun game you play with your kitty. When you are too tired to play by THE rules, put Fluffy in a separate room and play by your rules: walk around pants free, sit however you please, eat however you like, and even cut wind in your own home. But when kitty is in the same room remember – s/he is ALWAYS watching! If that cute cuddly ball of fluff is allowed to own you, you will be mere property living everyday in Crazy Cat Hell.

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P.S.  After I wrote this blog my cat, Josh informed me that I “Got it all wrong, as usual.”  Apparently that list of Don’ts was meant to apply to Yours Truly – but not necessarily to all humans.  Josh has since explained to me more about the complex system of roles among cats.  The above list would apply to a “Full Female” (Alpha – by human terms) human males & non-alpha females would have different ‘rules’ and, more latitude.  Find out what makes someone an Alpha & how all this protocol can be used for peace (and quiet) in my next blog.

Spring Detox Time is Here!

One of the best way to shed excess winter pounds and get healthy is good detox.  And the very best time to begin your detox is spring!  For more background on the how toxins = excess fat and why spring is the best time to rid your life of BOTH, please see my April 26, 2013 blog “Spring Cleaning!”   https://clearmirrorhealing.wordpress.com/2013/04/26/spring-cleaning/

Set yourself free from toxic emotions!

Set yourself free from toxic emotions!

Emotional Detox

Last year I told you about some of the basics of detox.  This year I’d like to dig a little deeper!  The benefits of detox are all over the magazines online and off these days.  But one thing you won’t read about in Women’s Health (April 2013, p. 96) or other mainstream sources is  emotional detox.

Some of the toxins your liver has to detoxify are emotions.  Emotions are real.  They are produced by chemicals released into the body to help produce different physical and mental responses.  The negative emotions such as anger, grief, frustration, and stress become toxic to our bodies after only a little time and must either be broken down (detoxified) by the liver or they must be stored in new fat cells.

Beets and other dark red veggies & fruits aid detox.

Beets and other dark red veggies & fruits aid detox.

So when you commit to a detox process, some of the toxins you will be removing are the chemicals of these emotions.  As the body breaks down the fat the chemical emotions are again released into the blood stream and sent to the liver for processing.  As they circulate, you will again feel the emotions.  Once again those chemical toxins will make you feel angry, blue, grumpy and frustrated. They may make you argue with your partner, children, or coworkers.  Believe me, they will make you want to STOP your detox and head for the nearest bar, or bag of chips!

The humble artichoke helps flush the toxins from your liver.

The humble artichoke helps flush the toxins from your liver.

But to really realize the benefits we must push on through with our commitment to a clean, toxin free body.  This is where I can help!  Hypnotherapy is one of the fastest and best ways to free oneself from big, negative emotions and let them go.  The process is fun and easy and you’ll feel fresh and light-as-a-feather after only ONE session.  More importantly, hypnotherapy lets you build in simple, effective, SUBCONSCIOUS ways to solve the problems that create stress, worry, anger and frustration all year long.

There are several important things to keep in mind when doing a detox. One is simply that an effective detox will ALWAYS have an emotionally cleansing component.  If detox doesn’t make you edgy – its not really working.  (sorry!)  Next is: when toxic emotions do arise, remember those emotions are coming OUT of you – NOT into you.  So, contrary to human nature, you want to avoid placing blame for your feelings outside yourself.  Its not your partner, children, or boss causing you to feel this way…and its NOT your detox coach!  It is simply part of the process of real toxin removal.  When you keep in mind that the feelings are from old wounds and they are passing through your system on their way OUT for good and all, they not only become easier to deal with, they become actual proof that your detox is working.

Green juice is your best bet for removing toxins.

Green juice is your best bet for removing toxins.

One other thing to keep in mind is that you can speed your way through the emotional detox by drinking more water and consuming more green foods (dark green leafy vegetables – including algae).  In other words – increase the detox to speed the toxic emotions on their way.  And you can make the emotional detox easier to handle by talking walks in the fresh air, listening to happy music, journaling (try my online journal/support forum and resource Facebook.com/Detox Club at CMH ) or watching a nice movie.

Last thing to keep in mind as a resource is the strategy of “taking a break”.  The fact is you CAN dive into a pack of chips or a tall brewski if it gets bad enough.  Take the dive and then get right back on the detox track the next day.  It is the daily consumptions of these toxins that contribute to the liver’s overload.  Not a one day indulgence.  If you have to detox by fits-and-starts its still a better detox than giving up on your goals.  Besides, toxic emotions actually represent a much more dangerous overload than a little junk food. Better you eat some junk every few days than that you stuff those negative emotions back into your belly – or the face of an innocent bystander!

Lovely hibiscus tea (found in CS's Red Zinger & Tazo's Passion) helps clean out toxins AND calm emotions.

Lovely hibiscus tea (found in CS’s Red Zinger & Tazo’s Passion) helps clean out toxins AND calm emotions.

Making it through the hardship of emotional detox may take all the resources you can muster.  But the benefits are well worth it.  So before you give up on yourself, please call me and book an appointment.  I am on your side!  I know how hard it can be.  I’m doing my own slow, grueling, detox right now.  And I rely on hypnosis to get me through too.

This year I’m offering a great discount on a Detox Kit.  The kit includes a personal hypnosis session to help you through the emotional part, hypnosis CD for use at home, coaching on the (tried and true) How To’s of the dietary detox process, and luxurious spa quality products for the physical detox.  You can find the deal on Groupon or you can get it by mentioning the deal when you book your appointment.  Either way, you’re going to find a deep effective detox will jump-start your Summer weight loss and give you a healthy new lease on life!

Don’t Go to Bed Angry

Never go to bed angry...stay up and fight!

Never go to bed angry…stay up and fight!

We’ve all heard the admonition that one of the keys to a lasting and happy relationship is that you and your love never “go to bed angry”. And, of course, many of us have inferred the meaning of that advice the way Philis Diller did, “Stay up and FIGHT!” Obviously, there are problems with both pieces of advice. What may not at first be obvious is that a good relationship DOES indeed require some healthy arguing skills.  So, while both statements are wrong, they are also both right.

In my first marriage, which lasted seven long years, we never fought. I took the demise of my marriage very seriously and set out to learn what I had done wrong.  I could see very clearly what my Ex was doing wrong, naturally.  But a relationship is ALWAYS a two way street.  I knew that 50% of what killed the union was mine.  So, I set out to discover what I could do better and to train myself so that I would never have to endure such a disastrous relationship again.

As fate would have it, one of the first things I learned was that a good relationship needs two people who are good at arguing.  Firstly, no two people of any age or relationship structure can live together long without disagreements and misunderstandings. Do you occasionally disagree with and misunderstand your kids? Your parents and siblings? Your room mates? Your best friends?  I would guess that you even want to argue with your teachers, co-workers, boss, customers, even strangers on the street.  Am I wrong? No, I am not and if you are thinking otherwise you need to read this carefully.  Maybe you need to practice.  Learn how to argue more.

Even the angels argue

Even the angels argue

Secondly, and this is key, arguing is nothing more than honest communication fueled by emotions.  You can take that definition up by degrees. Debating, arguing, fighting, its all communication fueled by increasingly intense emotions. The only way to avoid intense fighting that leads to intense, sometimes irreparable rifts, is to argue more often.  That’s right! And it needs repeating:  the ONLY way to avoid big nasty fights is to engage in lots of small pleasant fights.  I call this Low Grade Bickering.

My man and I engage in this low grade bickering daily, usually over breakfast.  By dinner time I’m usually too tired to hold up my end of an argument.  Which, by the by, is a big part of what went wrong in my marriage.  We were both too polite, too “nice” and eventually too lacking in passion to hold up the ends of a decent argument.  (That stuff is deadly, my friend!) But this man of mine? All he has to do is make a statement authoritatively, ask a question in a certain tone of voice, or just phrase a request as a command and I am off and running.

Nothing this guy says goes unchallenged.  Nothing I say goes without a counter argument.  Eventually, we get down to explanations and understanding.  Understanding is the goal.  No one can truly forgive or fully love without understanding.  This is my contention.  You can test it out for yourself, please do.  You will soon find that the people and actions you have decided to “forgive” without fully understanding are people and actions you simply abandon, resent and avoid.  True forgiveness requires understanding.  To say nothing of true love.

Friendly debate

Friendly debate

True love requires the ability to fall head over heels again and again.  Because that heady, exciting stuff wears off or we would never get work done, right?  I met a new friend at the condiments bar of my local Starbucks yesterday.  She passed a few words to her husband then turned to me and muttered, “You know its bad when you’ve been together so long that you don’t even need to finish the sentence.”  I countered, “Oh, no, that’s good!”  She replied with a knowledgeable roll of her eyes.  She’s right too.  Its bad.

Stony silence

Stony silence

When you reach the point in a relationship where there’s nothing to debate or even discuss, you need to take action.  You need to create new avenues for discussion.  This is done by entering new challenges together.  Its as easy as taking a class together, seeing an interesting movie or play together, or as difficult as going into business together, building a house together or having a baby together.  I do hope you noticed the key word here is TOGETHER.  You can learn new things on your own but it will only help your relationship if you learn TOGETHER. That way you will have plenty of topics for discussion, debate, and bickering over breakfast. Go for it!

So now can we finally go to bed?  Well, I’m glad you asked!  This is what we like to call “make-up sex”.  But that, my friend, is a misnomer because it means conflicting things to conflicted people.  Men feel and genuinely believe that sex IS the making up.  Women feel and believe that sex is sealing the deal AFTER the making up is complete.  Thus the continuing and frequently escalating conflict. The difference lies in the emotional bonding that always accompanies sex.  Men get hit (and hard) with the emotional bond after sex.  While women must make the emotional bond before the physical bonding or its “just sex”.  (That is why I suppose it was a man who coined the term “making love” to mean sexual engagement.  To me, its all the same by different names. A rose is still a rose. But I digress…)

Make up

Make up

Can you see now why putting words around the thing is so vitally important?  If the words are a double edged sword, the lack of words is a clean sharp laser that severs the thing completely.  Men are not wrong.  Women are not wrong.  A life spent assuming that silence is contentment, agreement, or understanding, is wrong.  There are loving periods of silence, for sure.  But there is plenty of silence in a tomb as well.  I’ll tell you, I can’t even be alone with myself without a certain inner dialogue, even debate.  I’m constantly mulling things over, sorting things out, hypothesizing, and discussing ideas and observations with my self.  I truly LOVE MYSELF, that’s why.  Why would I expect my relationships with others to survive without similar dialogue?

Go on and disagree with me if you must but don’t you dare avoid me.  Write me and let’s fight!

Don't you agree??

Don’t you agree??

Sexual Healing

So many of my friends responded well to my last blog on the male/ female relationship lists that I’ve decided to continue the theme with a few more thoughts and information I’ve gathered over the years. I’d also like to invite all of you to please respond via the poll or comment section at the end of this blog. As much as I like your comments to me personally, I’m itching for a nice cyber-fight. Well, what I mean is, I love it when people understand and agree with me but I’d like it more if a few of you could debate with me. No, no, what I really meant was, while your praise and appreciation is always welcomed, nothing satisfies like some good healthy criticism. No, see, now you’re reading too much into what I’ve said. Just take the poll, ok. That’s all. Its anonymous. No one will know but you. All that gets posted is the numerical data. Who doesn’t love data, right? *ahem…cough, cough* Right! That’s what I meant alright and that’s all.

So given the widespread and sometimes insatiable human desire for debate, disagreement, or even conflict, particularly in our most intimate relationships, (those poor saps who have to live with us, as just one example) its not unusual to find that most of us have scars from past relationships and fears about future ones. And, naturally the past and future come to bear in our present relationships in a big, beautiful terrifying way. Which brings me quite naturally to today’s topic of sexual healing.

Like most healing, sexual healing happens spontaneously if we let it but can be improved by our deliberate efforts. The most natural form of sexual healing is the sexual masturbation fantasy. Masturbation has the ability to help us MASTER our fears. It has long been observed that many women have rape fantasies. This sort of fantasy often gets misinterpreted as a deep-set sexual desire to be raped or subjugated. In reality most female fantasies are the mind’s spontaneous attempts at sexual healing.

Women’s healing fantasies arise from the unconscious mind when she is fully relaxed and in the moment. Women don’t choose these fantasies, we don’t direct them, and we don’t want to play them out, not even with a trusted partner. The fantasy chooses us. They are our unconscious mind’s attempt to heal our deepest sexual wounds from the past. Whether these are real time fears from childhood, past life memories, or graphic movie sequences that hit too close to home, our mind feeds them back to us in a form that allows us to gain mastery.

Given enough repetition, these spontaneous fantasy events will heal our deepest fears. The unfortunate thing is that most women today recoil from the fantasy and the orgasm it triggered in horror. Why on earth would that turn me on? What’s wrong with me? These self effacing thoughts and feelings effectively shut down the healing. More accurately, they “stuff” the fears back where they came from in the form of an open gaping wound. Some women even shut down the process of masturbation, or any form of sex in response to their own critical self judgment.

Done properly, the spontaneous fantasy can heal and free us. Masturbation fantasy can actually be used to heal all sorts of fears, even those that seem nonsexual. I invite you to test out my theory. Dare to become fearless! Use it whenever fear raises its ugly head.

There is a difference between female and male sexual fantasies. While female fantasies heal the past, male fantasies tend to heal the future. Males tend to fantasize about and master their fears of future possibilities. There is a much greater tendency, therefore, that a man would want to live out or at least play out his fantasies in real time physical reality. But yes, a man can effectively master his fears of sexual inadequacy, rejection, etc. using masturbation fantasies.
So far I’m still talking about self-gratification. What about those fantasies we have while having sex with a partner? We can still use that sexual stimulation to drive a healing fantasy if we make a conscious choice to do so. But those healing fantasies do not spontaneously spring from our unconscious as often because we are often more consciously engaged (in, say, pleasing our partner, or observing their pleasure).

Partnered lovemaking fantasies still have male/female differences. Men tend to fantasize about unattainable women, actresses, models, famous singers, etc. While women tend to fantasize about people they know personally. I will warn you though, if a woman is creating fantasies during partnered lovemaking and they are not spontaneous, they are probably creating problems.

Women have multi-track minds. If a woman is using her gray matter – the thinking brain, in any way there is always the danger that one track will begin to focus on the household chores, TV programs, grocery lists and the like and she will never reach orgasm. The proper mental attitude for a woman during sex is reckless and mindless abandon. That’s right, the conscious mind should be a quivering mass of guacamole, unstirred by reason and incapable of more than guttural noises or the occasional bout of turrets-like swearing. So, Fellas, if she’s still speaking in grammatically correct sentences, she’s not really enjoying it as much as you think.

Males can also do damage with their fantasies. Given that male sexual fantasies whether partnered or solo, chosen or spontaneous, tend to be about desirable future possibilities, fantasizing exclusively or frequently to porn can be destructive. It can create a desire for sexual experiences that cannot be fulfilled or that render any real woman or relationship inadequate for sexual satisfaction. It can not only destroy relationships it can destroy the man’s potential for relationships.

So how do you know when your own fantasizing is helpful or destructive? Sexual fantasy is healthy when it leads to resolution of a problem or a fear. You can see that the problem has resolved when the fantasy loses its ability to stimulate orgasm. You can also observe the resolution in the real world as well. You respond differently and your environment responds differently to you. You quite literally change your reality.

Sexual healing is mostly something you do for yourself. Within a sexual relationship built on trust and mutual respect, you can and should help your partner heal and let him/her help you. It creates a deeper bond. It creates more trust and it creates better sex. In fact, sharing all your sexual fantasies with your partner is a good idea. Do it in your own good time. Don’t rush yourself or your partner. If it doesn’t feel safe or you think you may be misjudged, take time to discuss these ideas about sexual healing first.  The taboos of our society make all of us feel a bit awkward talking about sex and fantasies, but relationships gain something wonderful with every effort.

Education Reform: Testing doesn’t have to interfere with real learning

The accountability movement and the NCLB (No Child Left Behind legislation) has been an important step forward in American education. Now we find ourselves in a period of change and adjustment as a natural result of this progress. The benefits of the NCLB far outweigh the losses but the onus  is on school administration to help the faculty and staff transition into 21st century teaching skills and strategies that reduce the obstacles and expand the benefits, literally to all children, not just those in danger of being “left behind” by our traditional approach to learning and teaching.

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Teachers and administrators have long (always?) relied on a definition of education that approximates an exposure to and retention of facts. This is no longer a reliable paradigm. Students today are exposed to more information than any reasonable person can contain. Additionally they have no driving need to contain this information in their brains because multitudes of data storage devises exist to render the holding of information in conscious memory obsolete.

info overload

Compounding this new reality is the increased pace of scientific discovery and refutation of old beliefs. In short, the “facts” themselves change much too rapidly to make it practical for students to hold on to them as static reality. Students must, instead learn to sort, evaluate, use and extrapolate rather than contain factoids. The new definition of education we need to embrace is more along the lines of “learning how to learn” “learning how to think” and “learning how to create”.

A paradigm shift is always difficult. The shift is made more difficult by inflexibility and a desire to stay right where we are. Resisting the natural impulse to do things as they have always been done is really our greatest challenge. Along with that comes the challenge of learning from our students. Most teachers know this is a natural dynamic in the classroom but it takes a bit of humility to consciously use that skill.

Benefits of NCLB Legislation

One of the greatest benefits of the NCLB legislation has been the raising of standards of learning for all teachers and all students. Clearly, it is impossible to reach a goal when no goal has been set. Thus, the NCLB and the standardized tests resulting from it have set goals to be reached by all teachers and studenst. Those goals provide clear directives as well as a measurement of progress in which both students and teachers can take pride.

Another benefit of the NCLB legislation is the attention that gets focused on struggling students and those who are not learning well by the standard methods of teaching. It has been said that the purest form of love is attention. Indeed, it is the attention of caring adults that motivates learning and growth in all children regardless of up bringing. Children enter this world ready to learn and expand their lives. Homes filled with neglect and abuse in all its many forms stunt the growth of the child’s learning capacities. NCLB legislation and testing has had the benefit of engaging the attention of teachers and administrators and focusing it on the children who need that attention the most, the ones who project an image of being less, the ones who have received only negative attention and have never learned to attract the positive focus of adults. These very children are our most critical assets.

Challenges of NCLB Legislation

One of the greatest challenges resulting from the NCLB legislation is the tendency for teachers to focus only on the factoids and specifics most likely to appear on the standardized tests. This is what is commonly known as “teaching to the test”. It is tempting in the absence of quality teaching instruction and proven methods of effective delivery, for teachers to simply give notes, lectures, and memorization drills on the key facts. The problem of “teaching to the test” is that teachers may lose their sense of what good effective teaching is. In a desperate attempt to raise student scores teachers may completely fail to teach students the most important thing they learn in schools: how to think and how to learn.

Another challenge presented by NCLB legislation is that the needs of advanced level performing students are sometimes pushed aside as teachers focus on bring all students up to minimum competencies. As I see it this challenge goes hand in had with the problem of “teaching to the test”. Though in this case different students and different voices are involved, the problem remains that of helping teachers to build effective strategies for teaching students to think, challenge themselves and grow while still covering the core learning standards.

Sadly, many school administrators compound the obstacles and minimize the benefits by putting undue pressure on teachers without providing well-supported strategies of instruction that use the NCLB standards of learning as a substrate to the learning process, rather than the end goal. The key, I believe is in a new way of looking at learning. Our present learning paradigm was developed long before the flood of information technology we now live with. Our students are growing up knowing that there is “too much” information available on any given subject. Yet, we, based on our 18th century teaching paradigm, are still approaching education as if students’ brains need to contain the specific tidbits of information that our old brains have engulfed and hold dear.

keep in head

When young people cannot read time on an analog clock we are shocked, never mind that multiple digital time devices are readily available at any given minute. We are aghast that students cannot do basic mathematics in their heads, yet with the availability of calculators they will never need such antiquated “skills”. Moreover, by freeing their minds from the task of “fact holding” that multitudes of electronic and data storage devices can do more efficiently, students could expand their skills to 21st century problem solving and creative innovations (also known as “higher order thinking skills”).

The interesting thing is that a shift in the direction of more effective teaching and higher student performance scores would mean less work for teachers and more engagement by students. Right now many teachers feel as if they are running to stand still in their efforts to meet the demands of NCLB legislation. However, using the standards of learning as a substrate or guideline for engaging students in higher order learning activities would net more results in shorter periods of time.

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Sources

No sources were used. This information has long been collecting, marinating, and stewing in my brain case. Thanks for the opportunity to serve the dish.

Curing Mental Illness and Preventing Suicide

The ever-expanding brain

The ever-expanding brain

When I studied Neuroscience in medical school we were still being taught that neurons could not regenerate themselves.  What this translates into is a basic belief that while most any part of the body that sustains injury can be expected to heal and recover, any damage to the brain was permanent and irreversible.  In other words, if you break your mind, you will never again be “sane”.

Though many discoveries have been made since then that stands that notion on its head, most doctors still deeply believe the myth that any form of mental disorder is forever.  This crazy belief has driven the creation of terrible inhuman institutions, treatment, and drugs that are essentially little more than attempts to sedate, contain, and “keep away from US” anyone manifesting a mental disorder. The paradigm is insidious.

Then, because we have so little understanding of what causes the brain to “break” in the first place, ordinary folks have a long held tendency to fear mental illness and the mentally ill.  Of course, this vast generalized fear leads to all kinds of mistreatment and cruelty. Perhaps more importantly, it leads to a trust in a system of medicine that keeps the ill permanently in that state of suffering and illness.

I have discovered there is a cure.  I have discovered a cure to every kind of mental illness.  In fact I would go so far as to say that I have discovered that there is NO ILLNESS of the brain or mind. Each state that we so carefully pick apart, categorize and name with our DSM-5’s, then maintain with our vast array of psych meds, is actually a useful process or an important function in the brain. Most mental illness is actually a transition into better brain function. But, fearing the worst, we shut it down.  We rarely see the other side, the side where brain function blooms magnificently before our very eyes.

The brain is easily the most perfect of all organs.  It never stops healing itself.  It never stops growing. It has no limits.  Babies are born with all the knowledge of the ages in their little heads.  As they learn and grow their tiny brains eliminate neurons that are not stimulated in their everyday life.  That’s right, babies learn to dumb down their brains to better function in the home in which they find themselves. Babies are dumbing down their vast remarkable brains to better deal with us and our world. Nice.

But the Very Cool Thing is that vast array of neurons, knowledge and performance ability is not lost. Nothing is lost.  Our DNA remembers each pathway we came in with and, given the right stimulus, can and will re-grow.

True, the regrowth process is daunting.  Imagine, if you will, that you enter a store and see signs stating “pardon our progress”.  You see plastic sheeting hung everywhere, dust, drywall, tools.  You hear the grind and buzz of power tools and have to brush past busy workmen.  Some of us would want to turn around and go someplace else.  Well, imagine that store is a person’s brain.  That person cannot leave and go to another store.  That person must find a way to run his life working around and through the frustrating, slow and sometimes inadequate brain filled with new construction, dust flying, plastic drapes, and the buzz of tools.  This is the dynamic state that we see and call “illness”.  There is no illness, there is only a transition through a period of deconstruction and recreation.  Then, if we are patient, gentle, and kind, there are remarkable new abilities and ways of functioning never before dreamed of.

Isn’t it funny that the highly motivated graduate students particularly in sciences have such a high rate of mental “breakdowns” and suicide. No. Not really, when you stimulate brain growth enough, the brain begins to grow by leaps and bounds.  Once it has exhausted its present capacity, the brain is spurred to grow physically.  It begins that remarkable growth by literally breaking down neuronic pathways.  Unfortunately, that student only has the one brain to work with and will feel rather incapacitated with all that dust flying and staircases leading to nowhere.  But treated correctly, the process can be completed in only THREE DAYS.

Now, I expect it will be many years before all the double-blind placebo controlled, AMA approved, insurance certified tests have been done and published to give the go-ahead to believing in and treating the brain (and patients) with the respect they deserve.  Until then, you do have an option.  I am presently treating and CURING a vast array of mental “illness” and “disorders”.

If you or anyone you know has had a mental breakdown of any kind, ADD, ADHD, Aspergers, Depression, Anxiety, Bipolar Disorder, IBS, or any undiagnosed state of mind that reduces function, I can help.  Call me…504-312-3097

Write me: clearmirrorhealing@yahoo.com

Visit me: http://www.clearmirrorhealing.com     10349A Warwick Blvd Newport News, VA 23602

And, YES – I can also help you if you are not here in Virginia.

Sick!

Sick!